Hey you, the one that is looking at yourself in the mirror with disgust; give yourself a break! If you’re the one that is shoving your face with salad and not eating a single carb to hope you lose an inch or two; give yourself a break! If you’re also the one scrolling through social media comparing yourself to the other ladies who look like they just stepped off the runway; give yourself a break!
After I had Rowyn, my body was different. I had stretch marks all over. My once tight, toned, skinny body was now deflated like a balloon. After I had a few months of motherhood under my belt I started to feel the pressure to get my pre-baby body back. I began to workout, eat leaner, healthier meals, etc. I would try to wear old clothes or different styles only to still be disappointed with the way it looked or felt. I would get frustrated if I couldn’t workout long enough or often enough. My whole healthy journey became filled with more disappointment than accomplishment. I needed to give myself a break and I finally did.
If you’re looking to lose weight, get healthy and lean, and become a better version of yourself; there are some things you need to follow.
Set Some Realistic Goals
Setting goals that are realistic to your season in life is SO necessary. As a mom, you may not be able to workout 5-7 days a week. It may be realistic to shoot for 3-4 days a week instead. If you plan to workout certain days such as Monday, Wednesday, Friday but then life gets in the way, just switch the workout to a different day. Don’t get caught up in being so strict that you can’t be flexible because being a parent is all about flexibility. Kids can and will mess with your plans so it’s important to work at accomplishing goals but being flexible enough to maneuver your plans around as needed. It’s also imperative that you don’t expect to lose a ridiculous amount of weight in a small amount of time. Expecting to lose 30-40 pounds of baby weight in a month, 3 months, even 6 months may not be a realistic goal depending on your situation. Maybe start small and set a goal to lose a few inches per month, or lose 5 pounds per month. Remember that if it took 9 months to put the weight on, it is realistic that it may not shed off very fast either.
Your Body Will Never Be The Same
It is important to know that after you have a baby, no matter how much work you do, what you eat, how active you are, your body will never be the same. I know tons of women who look fantastic after having multiple kids and there’s no question that you can look and feel great too. But I can almost guarantee that either your hips will be wider, your chest smaller or descending, cellulite will appear and stick around in certain places, and that skin on your belly that stretched will still be a tiny bit crepe-like in certain areas. Learn to embrace it and know that every mama has one or more of these things that they may not love. Knowing these things helps us mamas to remember that we’re all human and not to push for a body that will never be attainable.
I commend anyone, especially moms, that are working on getting healthy after pregnancy. It takes even more commitment than getting healthy before kids because you have to prioritize your health so much more. Understand that God equips our bodies to carry, deliver, and care for a child and that is a beautiful thing! Although getting a healthy figure back is attainable, remember to give yourself a break while working towards that goal!