The pressure is on all the time when you’re a mom. There is pressure to get your body back. There is pressure to have it together all of the time. There is pressure to keep it together in front of your kids, not lose your temper or patience with them at the same time. There is pressure to do fun things with them but not go overboard to where they’re spoiled. There is pressure to keep yourself mentally and emotionally healthy too while not letting your marriage fall on the back burner. In a nutshell, the pressure never eases up and only molds into different kinds as your kids grow and hit different stages.
It’s Okay to let Them Cry
Now I want to preface this part by saying that this is all my opinion and I don’t judge anyone that parents different than me. When Rowyn was born, I was overwhelmed with trying to keep her happy all the time. In my mind, if she was crying, there was a reason and I could fix it. After a lot of worrying and stressing, I realized that is not always the case. Kids cry for so many different reasons and at a reasonable age, it is okay to let them cry and self soothe. As soon as both the girls were 4 months old we started teaching them to self soothe as long as they were fed, clean, and not in pain. Sometimes they don’t even know what they want. Sometimes they cry because they’re tired or frustrated and they need to figure it out on their own. I wish I learned this sooner because it would have saved me a ton of anxiety and exhaustion.
There were many moms that I admired before I became one myself. I admired them for many different reasons but most of them was because they overcame challenges as moms. Either they were single moms, moms with sick children, abuse survivors, etc. I never expected that same strength to be found in myself as a mom. When you feel like you have no energy left, you’re exhausted, haven’t eaten a good meal all day, and just want a minute to yourself; somehow God gives us the strength to get up and be a mom. I can’t tell you how many times in the past 2 years that I felt like I had no strength left. But every time, I dug deep and took care of my babies with a good attitude and with thanksgiving in my heart.
How lucky are we that we get to experience this life and let it shape us into better women? Being a mom has changed me so much. It’s taken me to dark places, happier moments than I could ever have imagined, and made me understand the true definition of sacrifice. Throughout it all, I can honestly say that being a mom has made me better and teaches me lessons daily. Although a lot has happened unexpectedly from becoming a mom, it keeps things exciting and shows me that the same power that lives in Him, lives in me too!
“May He equip you with all you need for doing His will. May He produce in you, through the power of Jesus Christ, every good thing that is pleasing to Him. All glory to Him forever and ever! Amen” (Hebrews 13:21, New Living Translation).