Fear can be a daily struggle for many people. It is a topic that some people prefer not to discuss. Fear can be crippling. Fear can keep people up at night, and no I am not talking about the fear you have after watching a horror movie. I am talking about everyday fear. This could include thoughts like, “how am I going to pay my bills?”, “Will I get any sleep tonight?”, “Will I pass this class that I desperately need?”, “Will this relationship last?”, etc. Fear can go so far to take over every thought in your mind and steal your joy. In this post I want to address some fears that I have overcome and how I have done so.
Years ago I suffered a major trauma in my life. It rocked my world and I became a very fearful person for the very first time. I often feared I would see this person who stole my joy. Everywhere I went I felt this weight on my chest, worried I would run into him. I also became depressed. I felt fearful I would never feel happy again. I felt fearful that this dark cloud that seemed to hang over me would never subside. My entire life became about fear! It got so bad that fear became bigger than anything else going on in my life.
At this time in my life, I’m fearful in quite a different way. I have little ones and a husband and although most of the time I’m confident in life, fear creeps in. I find myself being fearful about getting stuff done on time such as bills, assignments when I was in college, etc. I also fear sometimes that because I am so deep in the “baby stage” of life that I will lose some of myself in the meantime. Sometimes I fear that I will never sleep more than 4 hours at a time (Finley is not a very good sleeper). I also sometimes have fear about things going on in the world. These are more rational fears than I previously had but they are still unnecessary.
We all have fears but what are we to do when these fears cloud our better judgment or take control of our every thought? 1. We are to remember the truth. 2. We are to declare that fear has no power. 3. We are to turn that fear over to God. For example, take my fear of never sleeping in longer increments again. The truth is that eventually Finley will learn to sleep better. Ask myself, is there anything I can do to help that happen such as sleep training or getting a good bedtime routine going? Declaring fear as powerless is really just to set your mindset in a positive way. Finally, praying to God and asking Him to comfort Finley and help her learn to sleep better is a good way to turn that fear over to God so I don’t harbor it any longer. It is also helpful to read scripture about fear and remember that God’s power supersedes any fear, worry, or anxious that may try to take over your life.
“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline” (2 Timothy 1:7, New Living Translation).
“Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:6-7, New Living Translation).